Keeping your enemies closer

“Keep your friends close and your enemies closer”. 

I hope I’m not misquoting whoever came up with this ridiculous notion. A notion that when uttered in context might make complete sense and not just be a maleficent, jealous-sounding phrase. 

Unfortunately, that is what it’s become. Keeping a closer eye and spending more of your brain power on people who might cause you harm; toxic friends, manipulative lovers or sarcastic co-workers can all be seen as the real baddies in your everyday life. But it seems these aren’t the people who the phrase often refers to. 

Instead, I’ve heard so many people (particularly women in my experience) use it as a form of revenge-seeking after their other half has liked someone’s Instagram photo or spoken to the ‘wrong’ person at a party. ‘Keep your enemies closer’ being a personal mantra and an excuse for watching over this person’s every move on social media or even becoming ‘friends’ with them purely to know what they’re up to. Why spend the energy even giving your so-called enemies the time of day? 

If you have reason not to trust someone close to you, look at them rather than the third party.

I think the phrase should be used in a more abstract fashion. Taking learnings from the people who have actually hurt you, forgiving them in your mind and using their mistakes as a silent reminder that you are a stronger person for it. 

E x

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Curly and cruelty-free

Since I can remember my hair has been a struggle. I cut it short, straightened the crap out of it and finally accepted that it will forever be crazy curly and mad frizzy. 

It’s far curlier at the back than the front, it knots seconds after being brushed and can’t be tamed easily. So you can imagine how difficult it’s been to find hair products that actually work for me. And that’s been even more of a challenge since turning to cruelty free cosmetics.

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My love/hate relationship

London is my marmite. I’ve lived in the same house here my whole life. I say London I mean Croydon. London doesn’t want to claim us and nor does Surrey so I pretty much live in limbo and *spoiler alert* there are no pros to living in Croydon apart from the fact you can get pretty much EVERYWHERE else easily. 

For the sake of this post, I do live in London and I have the biggest love/hate relationship with this wonderful, bustling city, so let’s get down to business. 

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10 days in Crete

I just came back from a (mostly) sunny 10 days in the Greek island of Crete. Originally we were going to visit a couple of islands but it worked out a bit over budget so opted for the full time in Crete. I’ve got serious holiday blues and can’t stop posting photos on my Instagram so while it’s fresh, here are my top recommendations for a holiday to Crete. 

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